self improvement

E600: Have Some Patience

The key to patience is acceptance and faith.

 

  1. It’s human nature – we want instant gratification
    1. We want it now
    2. We quit too early
    3. We expect too much, too soon
  2. Have patience with people – accept them for who they are
    1. Everyone is different
    2. Don’t project yourself on them
    3. Give them due time
  3. Have patience with the outcome – have faith in your actions
    1. Avoid the need for instant results
    2. Learn to trust our efforts
    3. The rewards will come
      1. Plant the seed, tend the garden, and reap the fruits

E585: Developing Self-Discipline

With self-discipline most anything is possible. – Theodore Roosevelt

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  1. Self-discipline is the #1 trait for reaching goals, living the lifestyle we want, and a happy life
    1. A study by Wilhelm Huffman showed people with more self-control were happier
    2. Self-discipline helps us
      1. Deal with changes and conflicts better
      2. Spend lees time debating actions
      3. Avoid non-constructive impulses
  2. Self-discipline is about making our important actions into routine habits
    1. We need to build good routines and maintain the discipline to take the action
    2. It’s a learned process that takes effort and practice
    3. As our actions become habits we no longer need to think about them – we just do them
  3. We have to work at strengthing our self-discipline muscles
    1. Find things that can help you practice good self-discipline and avoid distractions
    2. Reward yourself for your success in taking action
    3. Become a champion of self-discipline

E570: What Do You Focus On?

Shift your focus for a more fulfilling and joyous life.

 

  1. Our minds are amazing machines
    1. Constantly processing and analyzing data
    2. It takes in thousands of stimuli per second
    3. It processes that to deliver information to our conscious mind – both good and bad
  2. What do you focus on? This can have a huge impact on our state of mind
    1. The good or the bad?
    2. We want to shift to focusing on the good – at least 51% of the time
    3. Move from energy-draining emotions to emotions of power
  3. Don’t just accept what your brain tells you
    1. You have options, learn to process the results
      1. Just like Google – you get thousands of results but not all provide you what you need
    2. Become an observer – step back in ask “does this thought/emotion serve me?”
    3. Use this exercise when you get emotions and thoughts
      1. Accept the emotion/thought
      2. Ask “Does this benefit me?” – if yes, great – if not..
      3. Ask “Can I let it go?”
      4. Ask “When can I let it go?” – if now, great – if not repeat the exercise

E565: Remove The Clutter

Free your mind by clearing out the clutter.

 

  1. Leading a busy life can lead to clutter
    1. Desks full of papers and junk
    2. Computer desktop full of icons
    3. Cars, homes, projects, all full of clutter
  2. Clutter is bad for our mind
    1. It’s a distraction
    2. Signals that our work is never done
    3. Blocks creativity and productivity
  3. Tackle the clutter in your life
    1. Clean your desk off at the end of every day – leave nothing
      1. Use file folders to organize the papers you need so they are off your desk
    2. Organize your computer every Friday
    3. Use some technology to help organize
      1. Scan, file, and toss papers

E555: Your Personal Vision

Your vision guides your life journey to the proper destination.

 

  1. Who do you want to become?
    1. What is your vision
      1. Think about what a day in your life would look like
    2. What will people say at your funeral?
    3. Look at all four legs, work, family, community, and self
  2. Create a clear vision of you
    1. Look at who you want to be in 5, 10, 15 years
      1. To express your vision try to write a daily journal passage from the future you
    2. Remember we overestimate what we can accomplish in 1 year and underestimate what we can do in ten years
    3. Create a vision board
      1. Add what / why / key characteristics
  3. Start living like you are already there
    1. To become what you want, you have to be that person
    2. Not fake it til you make – do things like you are already there
    3. It’s all about your mindset